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Cunnilingus Tips: How To Go Down On A Girl

Cunnilingus Tips: How To Go Down On A Girl

Do you know what cunnilingus is? Does cunnilingus sound hard? Do you find it sexy? Or have you never tried it? No matter where you are on the cunnilingus scale, we have you covered. Here’s everything you need to know to become a cunnilingus master!

What is Cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is a Latin term for oral sex performed on a vagina. Usually, that entails a woman, but it can also be a transgender person with a vagina or a non-binary person who was assigned female at birth.

Like any sex act, it mainly depends on the two people involved. But in short, cunnilingus is typically focused on one partner licking the other person’s clitoris. This is located directly above the vagina and is also called the clitoral head. There are certain actions and moves that are more common.  But the vital thing is that you and the person you’re going performing cunnilingus on, have the same idea of what feels good.

This experience can vary wildly from person to person. One person might love a move that you usually do but another person might not find it enjoyable. Hence, the best way to figure out what a person likes is by talking it out with the other person.

Tips and things you need to know

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It most definitely is a good decision to start engaging in cunnilingus but, not knowing what you’re doing can also be a hindrance. We decided to help prevent you from ending up with your head between your partner’s legs, gripped by a deep feeling of panic or confusion. We spoke to some sex experts about a few basic tips you should know before you start licking away.

1) Find the clit

For quite a number of people, the main pleasure of cunnilingus comes when their clitoral head is licked. Sex educator Sarah Sloane states, “Trace the seam of the lips toward your partner’s belly button to find the clit.” You can also use your fingers to spread the lips apart to make the clit more visible.

The clit sits at the top of where the two inner labia join. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for it or feeling for it by touch. You just HAVE to find it. Trust us when we tell you this. The hunt is worth it.

2) Lick it like an ice cream cone

Well, you’ve now found your partner’s clit. What do you do? Start licking! There are lots of different ways to lick your partner’s clit. You can either be quick or slow. You can also use the whole length or your tongue or just the tip. Soft or quite aggressive, it’s your choice and your partner’s preference!

Should you lick it like an ice cream cone?  This isn’t a bad idea to start the fun with. Sloane says, “Start like you’re trying to lick all the ice cream in July.”  The important thing is to be sensitive to anything your partner says. Oh, and pay attention to their breathing patterns or moaning. Hit a certain rhythm and keep it going.

Read: DON’T WORRY ABOUT YOUR VAGINA: IT’S SELF CLEANING.

3) Don’t let uncertainty stop your tongue

So, how do you know if you’re doing okay? Ask! It’s that easy. Here are some phrases that you could try out:

  • “Do you prefer this [example A] or this [example B]?”
  • “Should I keep going?”
  • “Do you want me to go slower or faster?”

Furthermore, your partner’s body and the way they are responding will also give you useful hints. Are they moving toward you or away from you? If they’re moving toward you, keep it going! If they’re clenching their legs shut or moving away, the feeling might be too intense and you might need to slow down.

4) How long should you keep at it?

Sloane says that, on average, it takes vulva owners 20 to 45 minutes to climax.  Although, you should be enjoying it too.

“Giving someone oral to the point where you’re no longer enjoying it yourself isn’t a great game plan,” says Sloane. “It’s OK to move onto something else, and then come back.”

As for the pace, Sloane says “Start light and slowly increase the pressure and speed. It’s easier for someone to ask for more than to have to ask you to back off.”

5) Love her Vulva and explore more

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You wouldn’t enjoy oral if you sensed that your partner was struggling with the concept of putting your penis in their mouth, right? Sex is more fun when everyone’s enjoying it. Thus, you have to try to bring that same energy to cunnilingus.

Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the Drive Her Wild video course says, “The more you enjoy yourself, the more your partner will enjoy the experience. Your partner may have received negative messages about their genitals growing up (and into adulthood) and while it’s not your job to undo all of the damaging effects, if you show appreciation and admiration for their vulva, it may help them to relax and be more present.”

Another part of cunnilingus that gets overlooked is exploring other parts of your partner’s vagina. You can do this by playing with your partner’s labia minora, colloquially known as “pussy lips.” This might not be as pleasurable as licking or sucking on the clit, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a fun part of the equation. It’s also a good option if you want to throw in some variation.

 

That’s all from us, folks! Good luck and Happy licking!

 

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