September 16, 2020
Nope, not trying to clickbait you into this. This is actually a product. Before we get down to it, here’s the trigger warning. If you are affected by talks about vaginal blood, virginity, sex, feminism, or just plain stupidity, this is not for you. Scrolling through Instagram, a colleague found this bizarre post on Spoilt Modern Page. And when she shared it, I knew it had to be public news! Amazon India is selling a pill that will make women bleed.
Oh, this obsession with virginity! How in the world are products like this available to people? And how does it sustain in the market? It is being marketed as an alternative to… Hymenoplasty!
Now people outside of India might not clearly understand why this pill was invented in the first place. Well, it is because virginity is a big freaking deal in the country. Even as we speak for equal rights, equal pay and equal opportunities, the efforts are slowly undone with creations like this.
Why is Virginity Such A Big Deal?
The obvious answer is purity. Being chaste is one of the key determinants of a “decent, cultured” girl. And blood spillage on the wedding night is apparently a sign of being a virgin. The sheets are often checked by the groom’s family as well. No kidding. Having pre-marital sex is a big taboo even today. A large part of the population still believes that women must stay a virgin until marriage. Sex is considered an act that is purely for raring babies. That’s probably why the older generation had a series of 7-15 babies. No protection, no entertainment.
Putting aside the jokes, this pill is still a bug we are trying to fix. Is this pill a step too far? Having to produce fake blood for the first night of marriage is ridiculous, to say the least. Isn’t it? Just take a look at what the product information reads on the website.
- The high-quality blood powder
- Fake Blood for the First Night
- No side effects. No needles.
- Not toxic. No anesthesia.
- No surgery! Easy, fast, safe & convenient.
Are you wondering how this works?
Pretty simple. You pop the pill. Up in there. Almost a finger deep, two to four hours before the “planned night”. The “high-quality” blood powder will have dissolved by the time you are ready to get it going. It is intended for the use of 30 minutes. So dear Cinderellas, have your alarms set. 2 hours before of what the product calls “scheduled traffic”. This “reliably” will confirm your virginity.
Also, who calls it “scheduled traffic”? It’s such a weird euphemism! But at least you now know what to tell your tinder date the next time you have to remind him to bring protection.
Unsure whether to giggle or get mad, this pill will leave you thinking of the many ways to use this. I wish we came across this right before Halloween too. But here’s a pickle for you to decode. Is this actually a blessing in disguise or just patriarchy rearing its stupid ugly head?
Image Courtesy: Amazon.in
As much as we would like to call this product out for its absurdity, one can also see how this helps the women get on with their lives and simply insert this to keep their nosy relatives out of it all. Even at this time and age, many are still uneducated about the fact that hymen can tear during any intense physical activity. Cycling, climbing, working out, or even just running can cause the hymen to tear.
And not all women have the same structuring down there. They have all the parts but not necessarily the same way. For starters, listen to what a nursing professor at Hunter College and a nurse practitioner who specializes in adolescent primary and reproductive health care has to say. Carol Roye says
“the hymen is not a flat piece of tissue covering the vagina, which is punctured during intercourse. If it were, girls would not be able to menstruate before they lose their virginity because there would be no outlet for menstrual blood” .
Getting back to the conundrum, would you consider this a blessing that will help you operate through the loopholes of patriarchy? Especially since it is a choice you have. The product clearly does not advocate for women to be a virgin until marriage. Their product would be deemed redundant then. But they also promote proving yourself through a “reliable virginity confirmation”.
Are we obsessed with virgin brides?
Does taking this pill means succumbing to the control patriarchal society has with women’s sexuality? Or does it mean cleverly taking back control? Is this body autonomy or moral policing? Or just learning to jump the hoops when you’re in a sticky situation? Would you take the pill if you were to marry into a family that cares about virginity? Let us know.
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