Does being “different” sound like a positive or a negative experience to you? For LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex and asexual) persons, daily living can be a frustrating and painful experience in our society. Because they are different in their sexual orientation, LGBTQIA people have been oppressed. They suffer social, religious, economic, political and legal discrimination. Much of this discrimination is based on the myths people believe about those who do not identify as heterosexual. For LGBTQIA to be treated equally in our society, we need to dispel these myths. What is most needed is the elimination of the irrational fear and hatred some people have for intimate, same-sex relationships. This irrational fear and hatred is called homophobia.
Myth: Lesbian, gay and bisexual people can be identified by certain mannerisms or physical characteristics.
People who are lesbian, gay or bisexual come in as many different shapes, colors and sizes as do people who are heterosexual.
Myth: Early Sexual experiences are indicative of one’s sexual orientation as an adult.
Many LGBT people have early heterosexual experiences, but are still lesbian, gay or bisexual; many avowed heterosexuals have had sexual contact with members of their own sex, but are still heterosexual.
Myth: We know what causes sexual orientation.
Many lesbian, gay and bisexual people know that they are attracted to members of their own sex at an early age, sometimes as young as 6 or 7 years old. Others learn much later in life, in their 30’s, 40’s or 50’s. Some research indicates that sexual orientation is determined between birth and age 3, but no one is sure what causes particular orientations.
Myth: Lesbian, gay and bisexual people of “flaunt” their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands or kiss one another in public.
These are activities that heterosexual couples do all the time. Due to homophobic reactions, some lesbian, gay and bisexual people are actually forced to hide their sexuality in public, not flaunt it.
Myth: People who are lesbian, gay and bisexual work and live in only certain types of situations.
LGB identified people belong to all ethnic and racial groups, are members of all religious communities, exhibit a range of mental and physical capabilities, and are of all ages.
Fact: Sometimes oppression based on sexual orientation escalates into acts of physical violence.
In surveys of lesbian, gay and bisexual people, 52-87% have been verbally harassed, 21-27% have been pelted with objects, 13-38% have been chased or followed and 9-24% have been physically assaulted.
Fact: Most lesbian, gay and bisexual people are comfortable with their own biological sex; they don’t regard themselves as members of the opposite sex.
Being lesbian, gay or bisexual is not the same as being transgender.
Fact: The majority of child molesters are heterosexual men, not lesbian, gay or bisexual people.
Almost all studies show that over 90% of child molestation is committed by heterosexual men.
Fact: Homosexuality is not a type of mental illness and cannot be “cured” by psychotherapy.
Although homosexuality was once thought to be a mental illness, the Indian Psychiatric Society and Psychological Associations no longer consider it to be one. Psychiatric and psychological attempts to “cure” lesbians and gay men have failed to change the sexual orientation of the patient. These “treatments” may help change sexual behaviour temporarily but also can create emotional trauma.
Fact: There is no definable gay “lifestyle”.
Similarly, there is no standard heterosexual lifestyle. Some people might like to think that a “normal” adult lifestyle is a heterosexual marriage with two children. The most accurate generalisation might be this: lesbian, gay and bisexual people are different from one another in the same ways that heterosexual people are different from one another.