September 16, 2020
STRAIGHT, NOT NARROW- An eye opener
Rarely do we come across people, moreover straight people in India who are so clear and organized with their stances, views and thoughts. Recently after talking to Kajol Tyagi, a young actor, who apart from being brutally honest and aware about the system we live in, wasn’t afraid to point out it’s flaws in details.
According to Kajol, “Gender is a social construct and is all in the mind.”
As our conversation progresses, she says that a free and inclusive India, where we actually are a Secular nation will come as a result of undaunted EQUALITY. Sometimes bringing about change is so simple that it’s difficult for a lot of people to comprehend. Most people want to bring about a revolution, when all we need is a dynamic perspective shift for a society where the word LGBT in itself doesn’t exist because if someone’s equal, why are they categorized as different community?
“We don’t have a SMWBG(Straight Men, Women, Boys and Girls) community right?”
The conversation now takes a turn to the familial aspect. Being asked about how the young and the old can bridge the gap in the ways they think, she seems a bit confused. Let me intervene and say that the confusion wasn’t because of the lack of an answer but because she couldn’t comprehend the absurdity of the question. She chimes in and says, I don’t think the older generation has a regressive mindset and its my turn to be confused.
She adds, “working in the entertainment industry, my parents have always been supportive of whatever I choose to do, they accept and love me regardless of anything.”
This makes me wonder how much of a difference unconditional positive regard can bring to an individual’s life. Kajol helps us realise that a strong social support can mend half the problems and prejudices we face as a society. She also indirectly points out the importance of transparency and honesty at home, which I think is a pre-requisite for strong social sustenance.
Is the entertainment industry biased towards the LGBT people among them? An instant No tells me how open and accepting the industry is, where your work and dedication surpasses who you are or aren’t with. She tells me how there is absolutely no room for discrimination in the industry as talent is a differentiating factor in their line of work. We, as a society need to imbibe these values from the celebrities we look up to in so many ways.
In conclusion, Kajol had me going, “I agree!” when she kept hitting me with her views one after the other. From disregarding the whole Pink is for girls and Blue is for boy’s stereotype to sidelining biased opinions we hold about adults as narrow minded.
She is a flag bearer of the new generation of straight Indians, who believe in absolute equality and equal opportunities for everyone, who believe in no special privileges or disdain based on your personal preferences.