The late singer Whitney Houston gave us the biggest of hits. She holds a Guinness World of Records for being the most awarded female singer. We have grooved to her “I wanna dance with somebody” and sang intensely when “I will always love you” played on the radio. Even today, seven years after her passing, we love and adore her for everything she was. And with Robyn Crawford’s memoir, A Song for You: My Life with Whitney Houston, we are only bound to love her even more.
Robyn Crawford who we all knew as Whitney Houston’s best friend reveals that the singer had a homosexual relationship with her. The author decided to share her truth because she felt the need to stand up for the friendship they shared. She stated,
“I’d come to the point where I felt the need to stand up for our friendship. And I felt an urgency to stand up and share the woman behind the incredible talent.”
Whitney Houston rose to fame and attracted the spotlight for a large part of her short life. Even though she died at the age of 48, her fans saw her at her best and at her worst as she struggled with drug abuse. Many are of the opinion that Crawford’s book is an injustice to Houston as it is a shared secret that Crawford revealed.
Crawford and Houston met as teenagers in the 1980s, and their relationship developed over time and got romantic. The author also said that Whitney ended their physical relationship in 1982. This was after Clive Davis Arista signed a record deal with her.
In her memoir, she writes, “She said we shouldn’t be physical anymore, because it would make our journey even more difficult… She said if people find out about us, they would use this against us, and back in the ’80s that’s how it felt.”
Twist in the Tale
Here’s something Whitney Houston told Time, in 1987 when asked about the relationship between Crawford and her.
“My mother taught me that when you stand in the truth and someone tells a lie about you, don’t fight it,” “I’m not with any man. I’m not in love. People see Robyn with me, and they draw their own conclusions. Anyway, whose business is it if you’re gay or like dogs? What others do shouldn’t matter. Let people talk. It doesn’t bother me because I know I’m not gay. I don’t care.”
Houston even went on to say that Crawford was the “sister I never had.”
But back in the day, being Black and Gay was twice as troublesome. Social and political unacceptance of homosexuality forced many people to stay closeted. And as a public figure, Whitney Houston’s position was more than understandable. But does this justify Crawford’s revelation?
Well, the story belongs to Crawford as much as it belongs to Houston. So why should we stop her from telling her truth? And take a look at what Houston said to Crawford about being seen together. Isn’t it unfair that we are still using it against her? Her sexual identity has nothing to do with how we perceive her music. Why does it alter how we see the iconic singer?
Advocate took Robyn’s side and supported the book. They put forth a perspective that is crucial to understand why the memoir does not disgrace Houston whatsoever. Robyn is a 58-year-old, who lived through a “generation of sexually repressed Black women who loved women, but who didn’t grow up being out and publicly embracing their sexual orientation and relationships.”
The social setup today allows us to discuss sexual identity in a public sphere and we have only recently reached here. Think about the changes that we have seen in the past ten years. Many countries recently added and altered LGBT+ laws in the past years, and a few are still fighting for equal rights. So why are berating Robyn for taking so long to reveal her story?
Just read these bits of their story from her book as she recollects the day Bobby Brown proposed to Houston.
“Bobby asked me to marry him and I think I’m going to do it,” Robyn Crawford recalls Houston’s words. To which Crawford asked Houston if she loved Brown. She said yes. Houston then asked Crawford if she thinks he loves her.
Whitney Houston also asked Crawford if she would be her Maid of Honor. She writes emotionally about Whitney’s wedding day. “I was very emotional,” “I looked into her eyes when I took her bouquet — taking one last look.”
Crawford also contemplated putting out her story for more than a million eyes to read. She told NBC “I never envisioned speaking publicly about my life and then I asked myself the question, ‘What would Whitney want? Would she understand you know, the time is now?’”
Maybe this means that their relationship finally receives the celebration it loves. What do you think?
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