Coming Out Story of A Boy from North East India‏

Coming Out Story of A Boy from North East India‏

From the bylanes of Darjeeling, one of North East India’s most prominent cities, hails 29 year-old Norden Sherpa, winner of reality TV show Video Wars and the first gay Indian to have won a TV show with a heterosexual viewer base. Now based in Mumbai as an actor, dancer and a fashion choreographer, he’s sure come a long way from his school days when he tried to change his mannerisms to fit in with society’s idea of masculinity.

Growing up gay is never easy, especially in an environment where the concept of homosexuality is known to no one. Norden remembers being in on his sexuality from a very young age and being called names like “sissy” and “chakka” by his peers, only because he was more in touch with his feminine side. He cannot recall a definite moment when the truth about his sexuality was revealed to him, and chooses to call it a process.

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“It was a slow process. From a very young age, I knew I liked being around girls more, dressing up and wearing high heels. In fact, whenever there was a pair of high heels missing, people would realise I was behind their disappearance”, he says.

Photo: Norden with Imran Khan and Anushka Sharma on the reality TV show- Video Wars

Sex was never taboo where he’s from. Parents would joke around with their kids and treat it as a humorous topic. However, the lack of formal sex education was definitely a setback as Norden found himself questioning the visible difference between himself and other boys his age. The absence of sex education and treatment of sex as taboo serve as detriments to the LGBTQ community in India, as kids find it difficult to come to terms with their sexuality, not knowing there exists an alternative to being straight. Interestingly, the North East has a thriving LGBTQ community with pride marches and other events being commonfare.

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When asked about his views on Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, Norden brands it absolutely ridiculous.

It’s like giving people another reason to break the rules. Nobody is going to stop having sex because a primitive law decrees it. Straight people don’t understand this, but it is not just the homosexual people that this law affects”, he says.

Norden's coming out story- Gay man from Darjeeling

A strong believer in the power of love, he believes what has helped him most in life is being true to himself and being happy with what he is.

He ends with something we could all learn from,

“There is no beginning or end to discrimination in India. Be it the LGBTQ community, or women or even people from different castes, we should all come together and fight for each other instead of fighting with each other. Only then can we make the country a better place to live in”

Written by Snigdha Bansal

3 Comments on this Post

  1. Lazip sharma

    All human being are same n u hv that right to live ur life in ur way,from where u get lots of happiness n respect as well…m proud of you whatevr u r doing today in glamorous world n keep going more higher..n yes u r best frnd n love you you..
    your caring Lazo………much love..

  2. Loved reading this about this loveable ‘boy’ of my neighborhood and surely understand the author’s broadmindedness and sincerity in trying to shove in some sense in our attics. However, with due respect to the author one would wholeheartedly, perhaps slightly vehemently, disagree of the ‘where the concept of homosexuality is known to no one’ and the ‘ where sex was never taboo where he’s from’. This in many ways than one merely helps pour the same kinda fodder on the ‘ chinky, eating fermented whatever, boozing whenever, where the fuck Nepal, China you from? perception of Mera Bharat Mahaan! Thus painting us all with the same negative biased brush, alike all the shit all mountain folks have been, still are and will ever be presumed, looked down and treated as. No hard feeling though Snigdha, really!

  3. There are some fascinating deadlines in this article however I don’t know if I see all of them center to heart. There’s some validity but I’ll take maintain opinion till I look into it further. Good article , thanks and we want more! Added to FeedBurner as well


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