“Cross Border Love”- Inside the Wedding Ceremony of Bianca and Saima

“Cross Border Love”- Inside the Wedding Ceremony of Bianca and Saima

It feels like yesterday when the Supreme Court of India struck down Section 377 of the Indian Penal Court decriminalising homosexuality. All in all, we now claim “Love is Love”, irrespective of gender or sex.

The plea sought recognition of their rights to same-sex marriage marriages, adoption, surrogacy. The community can serve openly in the army, navy and air force.

Many masks have vanished. On the flip side, there are some people who are out without planning they’re coming out. This has led to their parents suddenly being faced with a ‘truth’ they were not prepared for.

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LGBTQ+ Marriages:

Since the decriminalisation of same-sex relationships, there is a spike in instances of people wanting to come out of forced marriages.

Consequently, India is increasingly accepting same-sex marriages. A welcome surprise is that more and more LGBTQ+ weddings in the country follow rituals and customs that come along with an Indian Wedding.
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Cross-Border Love:

A recent lesbian wedding of India- Pakistani Couple has proved that love has no boundaries and borders.

The Indo-Pakistani lesbian couple Bianca and Saima have tied the knot in California and photographs from their fairy-tale wedding.

The couple tied the knot in a grand ceremony that brought together two different traditions followed by the rituals.

Bianca Maieli is a Muslim Pakistani woman and Ahmad is a Columbo-Indian Christian.

“Saima and I met through mutual friends in 2014 at a spoken word performance called ‘Coming Out Muslim’. We hit it off instantly and have literally been hanging out ever since!” Maieli told Indian wedding blog WeddingSutra.

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The outfit:

The couple dressed by South Asian fashion designer Bilal Hussain Kazimov.

Bianca sported a ravishing ivory sari with heavy gold embroidery. She completed her look with a Maang Tikka, gold bangles, and pearl kadas. (bangle)
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Ahmad’s sherwani was accompanied by a dupatta (scarf) on her side and a moti (read pearl) mala.
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 “We were keen on incorporating facets of both cultures in a way that was respectful and personalised at the same time.

“We had four events, each with its own colour scheme and everything was mostly DIY.

They went for similar vibes during their Mehendi too (pre-wedding ceremony). And they nailed the looks each time.
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The Mehendi ceremony, were equally gorgeous, with Bianca wearing a pink lehenga (skirt-top combo) while Saima sported a kurta pyjama (a lighter version of sherwani) which she teamed up with a pink brocade jacket.
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The Celebrations:

The beautiful wedding took place in Bianca’s dad’s backyard where 200 people attended. One of the brides’ friends even officiated the ceremony. The big day featured elements of Bianca’s Colombian and Catholic background plus Saima’s Muslim culture.

On their wedding day, there were baraat processions – whereby both sides of the family meet, singing and dancing – and the brides also joined in. We exchanged rings and officially got married.

The people who attended the ceremony commented on the couple’s union and posted on social media.

The celebrations began with the dholki, which was dominated by blue. The mayoun, which is essentially the Haldi ceremony, of course, was all yellow. Our Mehendi featured lots of pinks. The colors were white, gold, and lavender.
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The engagement consisted of black and gold colors and we wanted to contrast the colors. Hence decided on lavender, because we got married in Spring.
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Other wedding pictures also showed their friends and family present at the wedding ceremonies. Lots of people commented on their picture appreciating this union. One of the brides also found another beautiful couple wishing them a countless blessings.
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In Pakistan:

Pakistan does not accept same-sex marriage and gay sex carries the death penalty, although there is no record of this being enforced. The country does, however, recognise a third gender and has recently introduced stronger protections for transgender people.

In India:

The acceptance of Same-sex marriages is increasing gradually after the abolition of Section 377 in September 2018. Only after the abolition of the acceptance of the community, same-sex relationships, and same-sex marriages have increased in the country.

People are slowly changing their mindset regarding the LGBTQ+ community, yet few places in the country are still not accepting it.

Other Improvements:

Post decriminalisation issues of blackmail, extortion of community members just for who they are can now be tackled better. The societal acceptance will still take a while, but it is definitely going in the right direction with the representation of the community getting better, more people are coming out like India’s first athlete to come out Dutee Chand.

To add to this, brands are also making an attempt in showing inclusive advertisements representing the LGBTQ+ community which will make the community feel better and help in acceptance.

The wedding ceremony of Bianca and Saima also proves that “Love has no boundaries”. And that “Love has no Religion” and cross border love is also possible in today’s world. It is a month of celebrating Pride and love. So, we can finally prove that barriers can be broken and love is celebrated across borders and beyond seas as well.

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