Gay Grandson Wins The Internet Caring For His Grandma Who Has Dementia

Gay Grandson Wins The Internet Caring For His Grandma Who Has Dementia

A gay grandson documented his lockdown in Britain. The video shows the gay grandson caring for his 81-year-old grandmother with dementia.

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Tommy Ferris, 31, from Yate, Gloucestershire, recorded emotional moments with his grandma Nana Jean. The moments included dancing together in the glow of living room lights to towing her wheelchair behind his sit-on mower.

People all around the world and in Britain are stuck at home and many are left helpless and frustrated. However, Jean has no idea what the virus has done to the world. She’s completely oblivious to the paranoia that has gripped the world.

In heartwarming footage, Ferris shows how he and Jean make do under stringent social distancing guidelines that protect Jean, who is vulnerable to the virus, the BBC reported.

The gay grandson and his ideas

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In one clip, the grandson is dancing with his nan Jean to George Strait’s “I Just Want To Dance With You”. While, in another, Jean chugs white wine straight from the bottle by a campfire. Goals to be a better human, anyone?

In yet another video, Ferris serves up a meal cooked for Jean and then he reminds her he’s never going to marry a woman because he’s gay.

“I could make a lot of women happy,” Tommy said in the clip. “I’m not marrying one though.”

“Why not?” Nana Jeans asks.

 “Because I’m gay,” Tommy answers, adding: “We’re exactly the same as everyone else. Except we happen to fall in love with people who have the same thing in their pants as us.”

Jean was impressed at this little joke and proceeded to laugh.


The lockdown

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Talking about the lockdown, Ferris explained that lockdown measures have made him realize he didn’t spend enough time with his grandmother. He also stated that both their mental health have improved since spending more time together.

The hospitality worker said, “We should use this unique opportunity to connect on a deeper level with those we live with. Concentrate on bettering ourselves and improve our relationships with loved ones.”

He further added:

“Laugh, smile and consider the idea that it’s possible that this virus is giving us a period in our lives that one day we could be grateful for. It’s been very rewarding – for me as well as her.”

The gay grandson finally stated, “I had been on anti-depressants for two years before – it’s been therapy for me. It’s been fantastic. [The self-isolation] certainly made me look inside more and made me realize I was not spending enough time with her. I was going out on a night out when I should have been with her. It’s allowed me to go back to basics and look at what matters.”

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The elderly deal with the lockdown

Not every elderly person is lucky enough to have a grandson like Ferris. Other elderly people in the UK are establishing their own telephone and online networks, setting quizzes for their friends and sharing jokes.  They are also sharing uplifting news stories from around the world. This is a way of supporting each other during the coronavirus lockdown.

Jean Coops, 85, from London, was asked by her vicar to keep in touch with some elderly parishioners from her local church.  “I have a list of six people to keep in touch with but I expect the list will grow in the next few weeks as the lockdown drags on and the elderly feel more vulnerable and isolated,” she said.

Coops said they began ringing her back to check she was doing good too. “So we’ve become a mutual support group,” she said. “It’s rather nice and cheering, us older people all looking out for each other.”

Dr. Geoff Foot, who is also in his 80s, sends out a joke to his friends via email every morning. He says, “I do it to motivate and cheer them up a bit. It seems to be working as I now have a bank of about 40 jokes ready to send out over the coming weeks. All these jokes have been supplied by members and so, in a sense, I’m acting as a focal point for distribution.”

It’s not just jokes, though

Bob, 76, from Newcastle, asked his local volunteer group if he could help with dispensing aid. He said, “I’ve spent hours drawing up online spreadsheets, working out who needs what and who can do it. I was pretty good on the computer before, but this has really made me into a computer whizz.”

Geraldine and George, 87 and 89 respectively, have set up an email group and Zoom quiz. George said, “Geraldine and I now spend our week collecting together lists of uplifting news stories from around the world. Then we email it out on Fridays. We then spend the weekend writing a quiz for our friends and then we all hold a Zoom meeting on Mondays and pretend we’re in our local, having a pub quiz. We even joke about whose turn it is to go to the bar and buy the next round.”





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