If you have ever used a dating site, then you know that not everyone you swipe right on is a match. Even though both of you are nice to each other, there is a lack of chemistry and you really don’t see it happen. Especially if they have shown interest in you. And in moments like these, it is better if you can politely reject rather than turn cold or ghost them.
And to do that, you need to be better equipped with the dating techniques. The world is a pretty sad place, the least we can do is let off each other easy. Let’s begin, shall we?
Keep it Crisp
Keep your responses short and to the point. Don’t be harsh and hasty. If you are asked to meet, politely decline. Inform them that you don’t see it happen and are looking for something else. Also, thank them for their time, and wish them well.
If you are tired of texting someone who messages regularly, but is not really interested in meeting, you can get more assertive. You can tell them that you are okay with texting, but you also intend to meet people in person. You can follow it by saying that your views henceforth don’t seem to align, and you mean no offense.
Don’t beat around the bush for heaven’s sake. It’s only going to make rejecting that much harder. Stick to the points you want to make. State that you are not interested. Tell them why. Thank them for their time or their interest. Wish them well. End it.
Honesty is appreciated by most people. You have to tell people that there is something that you are looking for, and you do not see it in them.
Deal with the Backlash
Not everyone receives a rejection with ease. Well, to be fair, it does break your heart a little to be rejected. If you want to reject, keep yourself open for a conversation. Don’t drag the conversation but don’t leave them hanging either. Answer questions that you think you would want to answers if you were ever rejected. Be empathetic about it.
Practice Makes Perfect
This is not to say reject everyone to learn how to do it. But if you are someone afraid of rejecting or unsure of it, then try saying what you want to say to yourself. See if it feels alright. You might mess up once or twice but you are sure to get the hang of it pretty soon.
Here’s some examples from Elite Daily that you can use.
“Hi (insert name). Thanks for your message, but I don’t think we’re a fit, as the geography would make it challenging. I wish you the best of luck with your search.”
“Hi (insert name). Thanks for reaching out. I’m more comfortable dating someone closer in age to myself, but I hope you find someone amazing on this app.”
“Hi (insert name). Thanks for your message. I’m more of a bookworm, and you’re super active, and I’m just not a fan of water sports. I hope you find someone to catch a wave with.”
What Not To Do
Just no. Be a mature adult and take the high road. Don’t ghost someone after you have actually engaged with them in a conversation. This applies in reality as well. Sometimes even if you lose a potential partner, your niceness will land you an acquaintance.
Say Things You Don’t Mean
Keep a cool head. Even when you meet annoying pricks or creepy pervs, finish it off neatly instead of losing your energy over any conflict they bring in. Blocking is always an option, so if you’re being pushed to your limit, feel free to use it. A lot of mutual connections can be found on dating sites, so keep it clean and friendly as much as possible.
Good luck out there! Dating through dating sites can be scary but if you know how to navigate through the crazy weeds to get to the goods. So, hopefully, this should help you get better.