September 16, 2020
Last week we held a contest through WhatsApp messages. We sent out a bunch of questions to our LGBTQ+ contacts. The response we got was astonishing. We had some people that were not too comfortable with sharing their experiences. While others had some really interesting thoughts about the LGBTQ+ community.
We decided to have this contest to see how many out there are open about their sexuality. How they came out to their family and friends? We also asked them what they thought about the LGBTQ+ community. Their view and opinions mattered to us. We want to help make a difference and spread awareness inside and outside the community. The responses we got were quite supportive.
Let’s start off with the basics.
We wanted to know who our audience was. We started off by asking our participants how old they were and what they identify themselves as. Not so surprisingly we got a lot of responses from young individuals from the age group of 15 to 25 years. It is always nice to hear from the youth who is, in fact, the future of our country. They help make a huge change in the following years. Their thoughts are unique for a change.
Amongst these young individuals, we interacted with many gays and lesbians. Some were bisexuals as well. While one or two were transgenders. It was nice to know their thoughts on the LGBTQ community in India.
First, we asked them how open they are about their sexuality. And surprisingly many were not afraid to open up. Most were confident enough to tell us who they are. We made sure everyone felt comfortable talking about themselves.
Once we knew how comfortable they were, we asked how to tell us the first time they came out to their friends and family.
More support than rejection.
Anahata Sundarmurthy in a bisexual who was not afraid to tell us her story. She explained,” My primary and secondary friends circles have known for about 5-6 years now. I told my father about 2 years ago. My brother and a select few cousins on either side of my family are aware of the last 5 years or so. I only recently told my mother and it did NOT go down well. I have seen a therapist about two of my relationships as well.”
While some responded that their coming out was accepted in a supportive way others had a hard time dealing with their loved ones. Vikrant Solanki said that his family felt ashamed when he went out with boys. He added, “That’s why my friends are few I spend more time alone, sad and depressed.” It is not to easy to come out in an Indian family.
But most of our respondents said they got a lot of love and support. That means that the perception of people is changing. People are broadening their views and ideas beyond religion and culture.
It was a good year for the LGBTQ+ community.
We asked our participants if they thought that 2019 was a good year for the LGBTQ+ community. And many of them agreed. We did see a lot of change this year. And we are happy to hear that a lot of people felt the same way. This way we also found out that many were aware of the things that were happening around them.
For some people, it was a personal gain. For example, Kunal Dutta said it was a good year for him because he met a lot of new people on dating apps. Divyesh said,” For the first time I entered a club for my friend’s Bachelorette party. And when entered came to know the party if of the LGBT community. So it was really fun. Made friends. Enjoyed the event.
Others felt that there was a lot of change in the society. Especially after section 377 was passed. People have started to know more about the LGBTQ+ community and they are getting educated about it. Priyanshu said, “Many queer NGOs and organizations have come through many events which are helping the queer individuals.” This is why she thought it was a good year for the LGBTQ+ community.
While most responses were positive about change acceptance and awareness, some of the respondents were not too happy with the transgender bill that was passed in 2018.
In conclusion, 2019 was a good year for most of the LGBTQ+ individuals in the country.
The best parts of being a part of the LGBTQ+ community are…
We asked people what they thought was the best thing about being part of the LGBTQ+ community. We received some really heartwarming answers.
One of our transgender participants said, “The non-judgemental nature.” It is nice to see that they have a unique way of seeing things. Some of them loved the fact that the community is so open and friendly. They have the freedom of living and loving. People within the community are very supportive. Some said that they love the love that the community has to give.
Satyam Sagar said, “Well mostly I want to thanks the activist who are raising awareness. Because of them, I got the rainbow world. It really makes me happy when I meet people like me.”
An anonymous participant said’ “One can feel the essence of pure love & sacrifice.” Guess that is what the LGBTQ+ community represents. It is all about love and friendship between them.
Our survey took quite an interesting turn. And the responses we got were very heartwarming and lovable. We hope this is how we progress forward. With lots of love.