Honest Sex Education: Everything We Must Know

Honest Sex Education: Everything We Must Know

Youth today, is more in need of the LGBTQ inclusive sexual education than ever. Assuming someone’s gender identity or sexual orientation based on how they look, assuming that all young people are only attracted to the “opposite” gender, teaching that there are only opposite genders (boys and girls, and ignoring others). These are all examples where sex education may make the youth of different identities, genders, or orientations not feel included. These assumptions relate to several areas of people’s identities and experiences, including sex, sexual orientation, sexual behavior, gender roles, gender identity, and gender expression. Inclusive sex education means a change both in thinking and in language for these identities and experiences.

The main goal here is to ensure that everybody learns to be healthy partners in a healthy sexual relationship. That way, it not only empowers the youth but also ensures better access to information than an outdated standard.

Gender & Identity

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This Genderbread Person infographic removes certain assumptions that people generally tend to make. In doing so, they often misunderstand, exclude, or misgender others. Almost all of the Genderbread Person suggestions come from practitioners using the Genderbread Person or result indirectly from people pointing out issues they have with it. This includes LGBTQ+ Educators/Facilitators.

LGBTQ Terminology

Inclusive sex education and having honest conversations about gender and sexual orientation can help people become aware of stereotypes. Many people may not realize that some of the assumptions they have about relationships, having sex, what people look like, etc. are stereotypes. Sex education that is inclusive of LGBTQ+ people can help young people learn in a more accepting environment that acknowledges more identities and different experiences among all students.

L: Lesbians are women whose enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attractions are to other women.

G: Gay men are men whose enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attraction is to other men.

B: Bisexual (Bi) people are people who have the capacity to have enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attraction to those of the same gender or to those of another gender.

T: Trans or transgender: Trans does not describe a sexual orientation; it describes gender identity, usually that of someone whose anatomy and thus sex assigned at birth is different from their gender (e.g., a person born with male anatomy whose gender is a woman).

Q: Queer or Questioning: Depending on who you ask, “Q” may stand for either queer or questioning. Queer is a kind of umbrella term that includes:

1) Anyone who falls outside of typical social definitions of gender or sexual identity;

2) Anyone who wants to identify as queer. Questioning refers to someone who is questioning their gender or sexual identity.

+: The plus sign (+) is an attempt to be more inclusive of all identifies, including people who may have identified another gender identifies or sexual orientations, such as gender non-conforming, or pansexual. The + signifies an open mind to the continuing ways people define themselves, including straight or cisgender allies.

Healthy Safe Sex

Step 1 of any sexual interaction is getting continuous, enthusiastic, consent from everyone involved. Consent means that anyone can stop at any time. Similarly, It is can be noted that consent to one thing is not consent, to another. Consent is mutual, ongoing, and free from coercion, drugs, or alcohol influences. A “no” is not a “yes” that needs convincing.

Step 2 is all about the usage of Birth Control and Condoms. If you were born with a uterus and ovaries and still have those parts, you can get pregnant, especially if your partner is a sperm producer. There are a lot of ways to prevent pregnancy from prescription methods like an intrauterine device (IUD) to over the counter items such as condoms. Condom (sometimes called “male” condoms) is for penetrative sex. Trans women should use it on their non-op genitalia. Additionally, they are available at most pharmacies, supermarkets, and sex stores. Moreover, they are also usually found for free at local universities, health departments, and many local HIV/AIDS local non-profits.

Different Sexual Orientations Are Natural

Homosexuality is likely related to prenatal hormones and may possibly even have some sort of genetic basis. It’s natural. You can find homosexuality all over the animal kingdom. It’s been cataloged throughout all of human history cross-culturally. The concept of sexual orientation itself is a relatively recent invention of Western culture. Thus, we can say that sexual orientation is a spectrum and people can oscillate across that spectrum over the course of their lives. Besides, Bi-curiosity and gender experimentation are common urges in both genders. It doesn’t make anyone weird or socially unacceptable.

Finally, Sex Is Not Just Penetration

Going through middle school, you’re probably familiar with the baseball metaphor for sex. The first base involves kissing, second base is feeling up (usually boobs) or sometimes handjobs or fingering, third base is oral sex, and a home run is a vaginally penetrative sex, typically with a penis. However, if both partners have a vagina or a penis or they don’t ascribe to the gender roles typically assigned to those parts — the script sort of goes out the window. For queer people, going all the way can mean whatever we want it to. Moreover, gender doesn’t have to determine what you do in bed. However, it can function as a sex toy in and of itself. Gender play can involve heightening or swapping typically gendered roles and behaviors.

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