Share
Sex Tales: Think From The Right Head: Having A Boner For Three Weeks

Sex Tales: Think From The Right Head: Having A Boner For Three Weeks

Sometimes crazy events give us the utmost clarity in life. And here is a story of such. A gay man shares his tale of awkward and proud moments that led to a boner which lasted three weeks! After this hard time, the man could not use his dick for the next three months. And this gave him a lot of much-needed clarity about a few things in life that he chose to share with the world. How far would you go for sex?

Vice UK published this story and here’s the story right from the source.

“Last summer I was mere hours away from having my dick amputated. My experience in hospital would grace a horror movie, and is one I’m not eager to revisit again. But I’ll explain quickly how I got into such a mess in the first place.

It was a baking hot August night in Berlin. During a night out, I met a “doctor”. Was he actually a doctor? Looking back, I’m not so sure. But crucially, he was tall, blonde and handsome, and my crush was instant. I asked him if he’d like to come home with me. Hours of sex later, I needed a rest, but he wasn’t having any of it. I’d already taken two Viagra, pushing me dangerously over the limit, yet the blonde doctor had a solution. He insisted on giving me an erection-enhancing injection, right in the dick. He assured me that chemically it was different to the Viagra, and that taking the two together would be fine. I put my trust in him and consented.

The Negligence For Sex

I should have gone to hospital after four hours of my erection not going down. I really should have gone to hospital after eight hours of my erection not going down (a condition I later learned was called “priapism”). Instead, I waited over 30 hours, due to a mixture of bad advice and not wanting to miss Berlin’s Pride celebrations. I had no idea how serious it was.

Not being able to use my dick for the next three months certainly made me look at myself as a human being. I think it’s made me kinder, more patient and more resilient, too. So here are six tips for living a life beyond the tip of your dick – life lessons that can apply to anyone, but especially to GBTQ+ men.”

Sex/Viagra/Sex Tales: Think From The Right Head: Having A Boner For Three Weeks
Image Courtesy: Quartz

Well, that story was amped up from the start to the end.

Like many of us who can’t seem to think straight, and have our hormones take over us during times that actually require us to think, this man clearly steered in the wrong direction. Having a stiffie is important, and when you are already on two Viagras, you know for a fact that you’ve got enough juices flowing. So why go overboard? Maybe because a doctor was telling you that it’s okay?

The best way to avoid this kind of situation is to learn what you are putting into your body. Medicines or otherwise. Especially if it is something new that you are unaware of. Two-minute research on a trustworthy site can help you get the information you need. Either way, now that the man had already been through all of this. Here is what he learned about life during the three months of not using his penis.

Not A Piece of Meat

As a gay man, he says that the gay culture emphasises sex heavily. And that he had a sense of accomplishment when he had sex with multiple partners in one night. He said that every sexual encounter gave him the validation he was desperately seeking.

Although despite this, he used to go back to feeling empty and after the situation with the doctor, he was able to figure out why. He realised that the “doctor” only wanted inject him so that he could be pleasured for longer. But that’s okay. Like he says, “And most of the time, that’s just fine – as long as you don’t rely on beautiful strangers you meet in the night to provide a long-term emotional fix.”

No More F.O.M.O

F.O.M.O is a big issue that a majority of the population feels. F.O.M.O could be argued as a response to capitalism, but it also points out that a lot of us are extremely insecure and need constant validation that we are in reality having a good time. The man pointed out, that the any party we think that we possibly cannot miss out, you actually can. When he was stuck in the hospital for three whole weeks, he missed out on a lot of parties. And only after ten whole days did he realise that his health was far more important.

“There will always be another party. But you only ever get one dick. I’m happy I’ve finally learnt this life lesson, even if it was the hard way.”

F.O.M.O/sex/Sex Tales: Think From The Right Head: Having A Boner For Three Weeks
Image Courtesy: How To Geek

Defined By The Dick

Attaching our identity to our genitalia is a primary instinct that a lot of us are prone to do. But when this guy was not able to use his for three months, he said he felt very sad and even felt lost. And that was because the identity he had built for himself as a gay/queer man was mainly based on his prowess as a Top. He recollects, “When, suddenly, I could no longer fuck, I felt as though I’d lost a chunk of me. But due to the effects of my injury, I started meeting guys who’d say, “I don’t care if we fuck or not; I like you anyway”.”

So meeting a different guy in a different situation allowed him to explore a newer side to himself that he usually did not see.

The Bigger Things In Life

He also began to feel a great sense of gratitude to things around him. When he was told he had multiple blood clots spread across his body, he had to call his parents and ask them to visit him. Telling your parents that you could be dying all because of a stupid mistake he made while he was horny made him realise that there are more important things in life that he would rather focus on. His friends who visited him each day, good doctors to take care of him, and phone calls which reminded him that he was loved put things in perspective for him.

Find A Way Or Make One

One of the other major things he learnt was to never give up. He said that the first week after he was discharged from the hospital he was fired. And soon after, his boyfriend also broke up with him over an email. He underwent three months of depression and he pulled himself out of it by focusing on what he has to keep him going.

“After six months without work, I’m in debt – but I’m thinking of 100 ways to pay it off. I can’t spontaneously have sex anymore – ironically, I need to take Viagra first – but I’m getting stronger each day and there’s even a new treatment available involving electric shocks. It’s not going to be fun, and at the moment I can’t afford it, at £160 per go, but I’m not giving up. I’ll find a way to get the electric shock treatment I need. If you stay positive, there’s always a path out of the darkness.”

Do you believe that there is no way but up or do you think that you can drown deeper every time you kick the water?

Read Next: HEALING AFTER A HEART BREAKS: MR GAY INDIA RUNNER-UP TELLS YOU HOW

https://www.vice.com/en_in/article/4ag35q/viagra-priapism-three-week-erection

Leave a Comment