Another Type Of Sexual Orientation: Demisexual

Another Type Of Sexual Orientation: Demisexual

There are many different types of sexual orientations out there. Some of them we have never even heard of. Or, we might have heard of but do not know what they actually mean. One such sexual orientation recently heard of, all around, is Demisexual.

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Image courtesy: Livingly

What Is Demisexual?

Don’t be alarmed if you have no idea. Most people don’t. Well, let’s get straight to it.

Demisexual is a type of sexual orientation. Those who identify as demisexual only feel sexual attraction to another person only if they tend to form an emotional bond or connection with them.

Some people only feel sexually attracted to those they have a strong personal connection with. This is the case where the person is known as a demisexual.

According to the Demisexuality Resource Center, a person who is demisexual will have a strong desire to engage in sex far more rarely than the general population. For example, most people feel attracted to people they meet in public, work or in school. In most cases, it is based on purely physical attraction. This happens the moment you see each other.

In contrast, a demisexual person will only feel sexual attraction once they have had a chance to connect and bond emotionally with the other. And once they do, they may choose to engage in sexual activity. However, the urge is often weaker.

Furthermore, the emotional bond does not guarantee that the person will have any sexual desire. Though it is necessary for them to consider the sexual activity.

The bond that the person has does not have to be romantic. The bond could be due to platonic relationships with another person.

Moreover, the time that it takes for this bond to develop can vary from person to person. For some demisexuals, the emotional bond can happen instantly. But for some, it can take years to develop.

One way or another, a bond does not guarantee that the person will feel sexual attraction. Moreover, even if they do, it does not mean they would have to act on it.

Different types of sexual orientation or identities

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There are other kinds of sexual identities that are similar to demisexuality however, there are slight differences.


An asexual person is one who feels no sexual connection with any other person. The person has no desire to have sex. According to the Demisexual Resource Center, the asexual spectrum has asexuality on one end and non-asexuality at the other.

Demisexuality falls somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. This is because a demisexual person has very little sexual attraction towards others. However, the main difference is that demisexuals feel attraction only when they develop a strong emotional bond with another.

Gray-a or gray asexuality

Like demisexuality, gray-a is also on the asexual spectrum. Unlike demisexuality, a person who identifies as gray-a has a less intense sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual activities. However, gray-a people can feel attraction due to various circumstances.

Both gray-a and demisexual people experience sexual attraction infrequently. But the key difference is that gray-a people do not require an emotional bond with another.

Gray-a is very inclusive. In the sense that a person can identify as gray-a however they choose.


There is also a similarity between demisexual and sapiosexual. A person who identifies as sapiosexual is attracted to a limited number of people. Just like demisexuals. But there is a very distinctive difference. The difference is major.

A person who identifies as sapiosexual is attracted to intelligence.  Here, the emotional bond is not very crucial.

According to a study, IQ level is not the most attractive trait for sapiosexuals. The study finds that subjective intelligence is far more important than objective intelligence. That is what the IQ measures.


A person who identifies themselves as pansexual can be attracted to anyone. To them, it does not matter the gender, sexual orientation or sexual identity.

The level of attraction they feel towards people of different gender identities may vary from person to person. In other words, a person who identifies as pansexual may be more physically interested in females but still find that they are sexually attracted to some males, as well.

So these are a few sexualities that are very similar to demisexuality. They are pretty much the same but may vary slightly. Now that you know the different kinds of sexualities, it may be easier to know where people stand. Or even where you stand.

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