Why We Need To Accept And Respect LGBTQIA

Why We Need To Accept And Respect LGBTQIA

Ramdev Baba claims to cure homosexuality
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Author Lehman Strauss states that “God never created man with a so-called “homosexual need.” No baby is born a homosexual. Every baby is born male or female.”

That’s what I used to believe until recently when I learned about various abnormalities in sex differentiation in my human sexuality class. “Every baby is born male or female” is basically incorrect in a biological sense.

In fact, there are well over 70 different types of proven sex-chromosomal problems and many hormonal problems that effectively counter Strauss’s unscientific claim. “Sexual orientation is the result of a complex interaction of environmental, cognitive and biological factors”, genes play the more important role according to many scientific studies. Thus, we don’t have much choice but to obey what our DNA dictates us to become what we are heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Since sexual orientation is not a conscious choice, our society should not ignore but to accept, respect homosexuality, and our law should not discriminate against those people by taking away their freedom, benefits and rights to pursue happiness in a civil union.

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Homosexuality is not an overnight phenomenon, nor is it an invention of the 1980s when the first case of AIDS occurred.

Homosexuality has been long existent since the rise of humanity. Ancient Greeks are believed to practice pederasty in which an older man and an adolescent boy are engaged in an intimate relationship. Alexander the Great are known to be interested in young men in addition of women according to many historic records. Moreover, “Many domestic and wild animals engage in sexual activity with members of both the same and the opposite sex”, according to Tina Adler the author of an article titled “Animals’ Fancies” which appeared in the January issues of Science News.

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Homosexual Society in Ancient Greece
Homosexual Society in Ancient Greece

Homosexuality is found in 450 species, but why is it still generally perceived as morally unacceptable? This situation has several contributing factors. First, many religious and social conservatives believe that the bible prohibits homosexuality thus gays and lesbians alike are sinful, hated by God and should be criminalized. Second, people without any understanding about homosexuality simply think that it is chosen by those who practice it, and those who practice it are mentally ill. Third, it is simply unnatural and abnormal since the vast majority of people are heterosexual. Fourth, Homosexuality is fruitless; procreation is not possible. Fifth, Last but not the least, this group of people does not even bother to think; what is wrong is wrong, no matter what.

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Is sexual orientation really a free choice? No, it is not a choice. If ever it is a choice, it is not a free choice. It is an unconscious choice, a choice not by our will but a decision mainly based on our genetic makeup’s choosing.

According to Steve Goldberg, the author of the article titled “What is normal? – Heredity and Homosexuality” that appeared in the February 1999 issue of the National Review, “homosexuality is, like basic skin color, the result of a physiologically determinative factor.”

We can not choose our biological parents. We have no control over the color of our natural skin. We indeed do not freely, consciously choose to become either heterosexual or homosexual or even bisexual. If they can freely choose to which ever sexual orientation they wish, don’t you think they would of course pick heterosexual which is the praised one rather than homosexual which is always the condemned, prohibited, abnormal, unnatural one?

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Why is homosexual abnormal and unnatural? Homosexuality is abnormal and unnatural merely because of the number of people who are homosexual is rather small comparing to vast majority of people who are heterosexual.

Abnormal and unnatural has always carried the connotation of being bad. People have time and again failed to understand that being a minority does not necessarily mean being bad, while belonging to the majority does not necessarily make one good or superior. We have to accept and respect the fact that not everyone is exactly the same like us. If everyone is like us, how boring this world would become?

Homosexual are not abnormal, they are just different, just like Asians, Caucasians, African Americans and many other various races that are different, different biologically as in the color of their skins, different religiously as in the choosing of their faiths, different linguistically as in the languages they speak, different culturally as in the food they eat and the cloths they wear.

As a highly civilized society, we shall not make the same mistakes again to suppress, threaten, and prosecute the homosexual minority as when Hitler ordered to kill all the Jewish people, as when we denied the freedom of the enslaved, as when we denied the rights for women to vote.

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Homosexuality is natural since it is not a disease or a mental disorder as confirmed by the American Psychiatric Association in 1973. Also, the small number of people who are homosexuals should not make homosexuality unnatural. Tsunami is a rare phenomenon, its small number of occurrences nor should its devastating effects make it less natural than anything else that occur in nature. Homosexuals are not genetically altered with artificial means. Anything that happens naturally in nature is natural, homosexuals are no exceptions.

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It is true that reproduction is not naturally possible for homosexuals. However, the purpose of life, or what life is all about is definitely not just procreations for all of us. There is so much to life besides procreation.

On the first day of school, we were asked by our teachers about what we want to be after we grow up. I don’t remember any of my schoolmates as saying that he or she wanted to be a father or mother, or that they wanted to procreate. If procreation is the sole purpose of life, then how about those couples that can never conceive? How about those people that decided not to have a baby? Are they without the purpose of life? Should they just be equally condemned as we did to homosexual people? Of course not!

Homosexuality is not a disease. It is not a disorder. It is not a sin. It is not a crime. It is not a free choice. It is natural. It is normal. It needs no change.

Does homosexuality bring great harm to society? No. Is accepting homosexuality equal to promoting homosexuality? No. Homosexuality is not a commercial product like a car, cigarette, or beer. It is not a political agenda. It is not marketing model such as a pyramid theme. It is simply a natural phenomenon, an equally qualified sexual orientation as heterosexuality that needs not promotion. It’s not like right after our society finally accepts homosexuality and all of a sudden that everyone will turn gay, and there comes the extinctions of the human race, then the end of the world.

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I can not stress the point enough that sexual orientation conversion is infeasible. Heterosexuals will be heterosexuals and we will have our children, our children’s children to carry our pride and legacy into the coming century after century. The sun will still burn as the world will still turn and man kind will continue to rule this earth and the world and space beyond. Besides, recent estimates of homosexual prevalence in western countries are as low as 1% according to And as of January 1st 2005, the world population has reach 6.4 billion. We will live on.

Homosexuals will not cause harm to society. History has many times proven it. In fact, many homosexual people whether unknown or famous has made great contribution to society, to your country, to our world as a member of the human race. They may have a different sexual orientation than heterosexual people, however this difference does not affect their ability, capacity and effort to bring good to our world. They are just as equally qualified, functional, and efficient as any of us. From Macedonian king Alexander to Russian Mathematician Pavel Alexandrov, from American poet John Ashbery to British choreographer Sir Frederick Ashton, from the New Jersey governor James McGreevey to comedian Ellen DeGeneres, there are painters, philosophers, educators, artists, scientists, medical doctors, warriors, writers, politicians, mathematicians, or simply fathers, mothers, daughters, sons and homosexual people from all walks of life.

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Famous homosexual people: Neil Patrick Harris
Famous gay people: Neil Patrick Harris
Famous homosexual people: Ellen DeGeneres
Famous homosexual people: Ellen DeGeneres
Famous homosexual people: Elton John
Famous homosexual people: Elton John
Famous Homosexual people: Vikram Seth
Famous Homosexual people: Vikram Seth

All humans are born sexual and emotional beings whether young or old, whether big or small, whether gay or straight or even in between. Thus we all have the need to feel loved or be intimate with someone. Marriage is simply the union between two people in love.

Heterosexual couples who are in love can marry and are given a certificate. Heterosexual couple who are not in love can also get a marriage certificate. But why homosexual couple who are truly in love can’t marry by law in most states and counties of the land of the free?

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If two people are in love, of the legal age, with both consents, their matrimony should be recognized by law regardless of their sexual orientations. Marriage is above love and based on love, sexual orientations should not have anything to do with it. Thus, Marriage certificates should be issued to marrying homosexual couples and they should receive the protection and benefits from marriage by law.

What about their human rights? Shouldn’t homosexuals be entitled to equal human rights? Aren’t they humans too? 

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They must have the rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, just like any other heterosexual. They were born LGBTQIAP and there’s nothing in this world that can change that. Their pursuit of happiness does not interfere with ours or is it based on our pain, thus their right to pursuit should not be denied. Their right to happiness should not be criminalized. Their right to live their lives should be unconditionally returned. Their marriage should not be discriminated but legalized, thus received the same equal protection from the law as with any traditional marriage.

Written by Darong Ma

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