September 16, 2020
It’s always nice to meet people who may have similar interests or stories to you, so going to an LGBT meet up can be a great way to meet people like you – even if you are still figuring out who you are!
Making LGBTQ+ Friends:
Having a good mix of friends is amazing, but sometimes it can feel really good to be able to talk to somebody who just “gets” you – whether you are questioning your sexuality or are completely sure of it.
Making friends as an adult is hard. Making friends as an adult out of school is harder. That’s because growing up, we’ve learned to rely on one thing above all when figuring out our friendships, and that’s proximity.
You get thrown together with someone randomly in homeroom and two months later, you’re best friends forever. It’s so easy! But also how many people have you been BFFs with that you’ve lost track of over the years?
Finding friends in this new era of your life where you have a ton more agency to move around and select people, instead of just trying to survive the cafeteria, is actually really fun! So before you embark on your friend quest, think of it like a treasure hunt where the treasure is your new bestie. Here are a few tips to help you in your quest.
A few tips and guidelines to find LGBTQ+ friends online!
1. Find Friends through Facebook, Twitter or Tumblr:
One of the easiest ways to meet lgbtq+ friends online is through Facebook. It’s still possible for people to conceal their identity or present a false identity through Facebook, but it’s a little harder, and there is usually an empty profile, no pictures, no friends.
Tumblr can be a mess at times. Start following LGBTQ+ blogs you like on Tumblr, you can send messages. There are even some Tumblr blogs dedicated to finding LGBTQ+ friends. Most Tumblr users are in their teens and early 20s.
Twitter can also be a good place to meet LGBT friends of all ages. Search tags you’re interested in, follow a group of people with common interests and search for meetups in your area.
2. Look for LGBTQ+ Meetups in your area/ region:
There are a lot of different groups across, that you can go along to. If you’re feeling a little nervous you can bring a friend along for some support. You can also organisations which have group meet-ups.
3. Attend a Pride Parade / Event:
Pride is a celebration of the LGBT community that takes place through lots of different events across the country. They also usually have activities and areas for young people. Why not look for one near you?
4. LGBTQ+ Friendly Bars / Clubs:
Going to an LGBTQ+ Friendly bar is a surefire way to find queer folks. Dance along with your queer friends to pop songs.
Some of the gay and lesbian bars I found in Asia were strict “women only” or “men only,” which might make some trans and gender-nonconforming folks uncomfortable. So try to do your research before putting on your dancing shoes and heading out the door.
5. Meet up with Meetup.com:
Meetup.com can be a little hit or miss, but try searching LGBT, queer, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender to find groups near you.
You’ll find LGBT book clubs, hiking groups, improv groups, softball teams, foodies, bar hoppers, and more. If you’re not in school and you’re not meeting people at work, it’s a good way to find a group of LGBT people with common interests.
6. Try Empty Closets:
Empty Closets is an online forum for ages 13 and up, with a chat room for members who apply.
The forum covers a ton of topics, from entertainment and media to coming out later in life. I’m always a little iffy about meeting people who are essentially anonymous in real life, so if you’re doing an in-person meet up from Empty Closets, add someone on Facebook or get some proof they are who they say they are first.
7. Also, Try Trevor Space:
Trevor Space is a monitored youth-friendly site where lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning youth ages 13 to 24 can connect with other young people throughout the world, and can get involved in their local LGBT communities.
If you’re in a small town or a big city, there are LGBTQ+ People are around you. Regardless of where you find them, queer folks are everywhere, and even in countries that criminalize homosexuality, you can find vibrant LGBTQ+ Communities.
So if you’re an LGBTQ traveler, know you’re not alone on your journey alone — a new friend might be just around the corner.