Dating in the present era is a far cry from the days of inviting your crush from next door to the high school dance in the hopes of becoming an item. With dating apps, social media, and the possibility of meeting your future forever at a random grocery store, the dating scene has changed dramatically.
Despite these changes, the essence stays the same. People, at their heart, want a genuine connection and excitement in their lives. And if a first date can lead to one or both of those outcomes, that’s a very good deal.
So, whether you’re getting ready to jump back into the dating pool after a long break or slowly dipping your toes in for the first time, there are various ways to connect and have a great time on that first date. Continue scrolling for some first date suggestions to help you show calm confidence and enhance your chances of getting a second date!
1. Speak about something meaningful.
Do you find yourself repeating the same dull conversations on every first date? “What exactly do you do?” “Where are you originally from?” “Where did you go to high school?” “How long have you lived here?” If you’re not talking about anything intriguing, your date will not think you’re interesting. Take a chance. Make a personal disclosure about yourself that will lead to an in-depth, meaningful dialogue. Pose difficult questions. Talk about society concerns, politics, and your most embarrassing drinking experience. Make yourself intriguing by saying something interesting.
2. Pay close attention to their interests.
Take notice of their interests right away, just like you would while talking about something meaningful. Find out what kind of dates they prefer if you have time to discuss before the first date. Do they like dinner and a movie, or do they prefer something more romantic and intimate? Do they enjoy desserts or avoid them entirely? Paying attention to the small details they tell you about themselves can go a long way toward demonstrating your interest and retaining your second date
3. Ensure that your date feels prepared.
First dates can be awkward at times, and it can be annoying when minor details, such as wearing the wrong outfit or mistyping the address, contribute to the awkwardness. Even if you want to leave some aspects of the date a surprise, it can be beneficial to ensure that your date has enough information to feel prepared. Giving them a sense of how casual or dressy to be, if they should bring an extra jacket, and verifying the meeting location can all help to eliminate some of the unnecessary tension or discomfort of a first date.
4. Ask questions that will create a meaningful conversation
Prepare a few questions ahead of time for your date so you don’t struggle to think of a conversation starter while sitting across from someone you’ve just met.
Instead of the standard get-to-know-you questions (do they really want to explain why blue is their favourite colour yet again?), here are some inventive options to help you get to know your date better:
- What was your most recent read, and what did you think of it?
- What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?
- What is something you’ve never done but have always wanted to try?
- What is your most cherished family memory?
- What are your thoughts on budgeting? (With a wink, of course.)
- Do you have any wild travel tales?
- What is the best advise you’ve ever received?
- What’s the worst advise you’ve ever received?
- How do you unwind when you’re stressed?
- What are you most grateful for right now?
- What would your dream day involve?
5.Keep an eye on your body language.
Simple indications such as leaning forward, making eye contact, and smiling indicate that you are confident, open, and engaged in the conversation. Crossing your arms, glancing around the room, or fidgeting, on the other hand, can make you appear bored or uneasy and send the impression that you don’t want to be on the date.
Another first-date tip: Put your phone in your pocket or purse and push yourself not to look at it unless absolutely necessary. It’s not fun to be on a date with someone who is always glancing at their phone or checking texts. Because of how present you are with them; your date will be impressed and will feel seen and heard.
6. Do not avoid discussing sensitive or personal issues.
First date conversations should ideally be light-hearted and low-key. However, if difficult subjects come up, don’t feel obligated to shift the subject. You want to get to know this person and see if you two are a good match. And sometimes the best way to do so is to discuss more difficult things such as politics, faith, family history, and other significant aspects of life.
For example, if you’re religious, you might want to bring it up regardless of who you’re on a date with. If they have a problem with your spirituality, it’s best to find out as soon as possible so you don’t waste each other’s time.
7. Follow up post your date.
After your first date, it’s usually nice to check in and thank the other person for spending time with you and bringing you out (or allowing you take them out).
This is also the moment to be open and honest about your feelings. If you believe there is promise here, proceed one date at a time. Why put it off forever if you know you want to spend more time with them? Kindness and clarity are required when communicating what you think and how you feel.
8. On the first date, avoid engaging in sex with them.
OKAY, EVERYONE CALM DOWN. It’s very normal to sleep with your date on the first date, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, if you discover that after your ‘first time’ on the first date you don’t hear back from then again – it’s best to hold off on sex until you get to know them a little better.